Even the most charmed of couples can go through phases of being not so great. Whether it’s a major, known issue, or you’re just a bit out of sorts with each other for awhile, no relationship is immune. The good news is, it doesn’t mean the end. And it doesn’t mean things won’t get back to good.

Along with the good news, there’s some bad news. When you’re part of a troubled twosome it can be difficult to see ahead to better times. And that lack of clarity can make people do some really stupid things; all in the hopes of saving their relationship.

I get it. I’ve been there. I’m serious. And to prove it, here is my handy little sampling of save-the-relationship maneuvers that either I’ve tried or have had tried on me…and please remember that these are warnings, not suggestions! Hint: I did not do the baby thing. Promise.

Go for a Baby

It’s said that this even needs mentioning, but apparently it does. Too many people labor under the illusion that bringing a child into the mix will strengthen their ailing relationship and nothing could be further from the truth. Tricking a partner into an “accidental” pregnancy is nothing short of repugnant.

Privacy invasion

“Maybe if I just sneak a peak at his text messages, it’ll give me some magical insight to what he’s thinking and then everything will work out!” Maybe you’re crazy. Maybe you’re delusional. Maybe you’re breaking laws…and maybe you’re getting broken up with.

Checking a lover’s email, Facebook, text messages…all straight ways to freaking yourself out. Because either you find something that is incriminating against him/her and then you can’t use it against them (illegally obtained evidence is inadmissible in court, babies) or you find nothing and you’re just a snoop. Lose/Lose.

Move in with each other

When the idea of facing your problems becomes a downer (and let’s face it, who looks forward to that), the natural response is often to become physically closer. So the couple will move in together. It’s an illogical, if understandable, response that does nothing to solve the underlying issues in your relationship.

So why not move in together instead?! It gives you an exciting diversion and the thrill and illusory romance of embarking on cohabitation is usually enough to distract the two of you from what was causing problems. But hey! Whisper…those problems? They’ll be back. Only this time, you’re sharing a lease. Good job further complicating things.

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